Intimate Consent & Boundaries
The true purpose of Zen is to see things as they really are.
When we bring past present,
Then we have poetry, and then we have human life.
Good and bad are only in your mind.
Suzuki Roshi
Intimate
Characterised by or suggesting an atmosphere conducive to privacy or intimacy; warmly cozy:
Consent
Permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. noun
Give permission for something to happen. verb
The Importance of Consent around Sexuality
Consent is an informed and firmly communicated agreement to participate in a sexual activity or activities, you can give it by word or action and remove it at any time during a sexual act in the same way.
Communication, honesty and respect make sexual relationships better, it shows respect for yourself and your partner.
Boundaries
Defining boundaries is a process of determining what behaviour you will accept from others and what you will not. Boundaries include physical boundaries, as well as emotional boundaries. Physical boundaries include your body, personal space, and privacy.
Boundaries can be fluid for many reasons and communication is key to understanding others and your boundaries.
Professional Boundaries
Short version: We, me or you, do not do anything we don’t want to do, discovering what we really like makes this more powerful.
Boundaries during private sessions
Society does not generally equip us with the tools to be able to ask for consent. This means we learn nothing about boundaries or rejection, how to navigate them and how to make them a positive nurturing experience.
So the establishing of boundaries and empowering you enough to communicate these is an important aspect of our time together. When you can assert your boundaries as we come near them it provides protection for all involved.
Boundaries can have hard or soft limits. Hard limits are somewhere you are not prepared to go at the present time, or ever. Soft limits are a like a “maybe”, exploring them gently will give you a good idea of what you do and don’t like.
Specific sessions can be set up to help you find and express your boundaries. Getting the chance to express boundaries can be very empowering. Please get in touch to arrange a session if this sounds of interest to you.
A powerful “No” is something many of us have never done. Carefully set out and mutually agreed exercises can help you discover that “No” within you, and from there your “Yes” will also become more powerful. This is a powerful tool that will empower other aspects of your life.