Sean came highly recommended by a friend who thought that his services could help me in my struggles with exploring my sexuality. After several failed attempts to try and unravel years of trauma I was stuck in my efforts to try and move forward.
My history includes a dysfunctional childhood, a sexual assault at 14 years old and 27-year relationships that was emotionally, mentally, and physically/sexually abusive. I left at the age of 49 to build a new life, not even knowing who I was. At 51 I decided to dip my toe into dating, and it was then I came to face the extent of the damage. I froze at the prospect of even kissing someone. I was filled with so much shame and poor body image, I could not comprehend why anyone would want to be with me. I embarked on a series of attempts to explore intimacy, and an unhealthy pattern was starting to emerge. I also came to terms that I was drawn to kink and had some instinctive sense that perhaps within that, I could achieve some healing. I had felt even as a teenager something not feeling right about a typical, monogamous relationship. I started to seek support and to educate myself, but took several paths that were wrong for me. By now I saw a glaringly obvious disconnect between my heart, head, and body.
I had given up on myself at this point and had decided on self-imposed celibacy and to throw my energy into working/studying. I emailed Sean with a “this is probably never going to work” attitude, but something within his response landed in a way that I felt some form of hope. When I completed the questionnaire, I realised that I did not want to give up on myself, and after a zoom call with Sean I decided I felt comfortable to work with him and so my journey began.
We started off with boundaries and the wheel of consent, learning to ask for what I wanted. To feel into my body as to whether something felt right or not. The realisation hit hard how I was so disconnected from my body. I could feel these enormous blocks. Receiving was something I had never experienced in a healthy, caring way and due to poor body images and mistrust I rebuked and avoided receiving, it made me feel so uncomfortable and I fought with my own vulnerability. I was someone who had become hard wired to only give. The way in which I was able to overcome this was to work with Sean in a D/s dynamic. Within this I found a side of me that was unexpected and a strong sense of empowerment and newfound confidence. I also started to see that within myself there was a much greater depth to my sexuality – but undiscovered. I felt I had started to open and saw a possibility to flourish. Sean see’s women beyond the physical and I always felt safe in showing up however I was – all parts were always made to feel welcome. I did not have to pretend, and a sense of empowerment started to break through. The sensual massage helped me to connect with my body and to experience what conscious touch should feel like. Sean gave space in each session for exploration, sometimes we would simply talk.
By the end of the 4 weeks, I had seen my confidence grow, a healthier attitude to my body image, an awakening of my sexuality and a clear and felt understanding of what intimacy was.
I had written myself off, my past life had put myself into a place with some harmful defence mechanisms, a failure to have healthy connections. I am passionate and hold strong views on how women have, and continue to suffer from inequality and an unhealthy attitude towards female sexuality. There are probably very few women who have hit middle age without experiencing some difficulties. Failed relationships, poor body images, shame around their sexuality, wanting to explore something specific but not knowing where to start – an exhaustive list. I would really encourage other women to take a simple step forward and make an initial enquiry. There are only gains to be had.
It has taken me 55 years to finally learn what real, healthy intimacy is. That it goes beyond sexual/physical. This revelation and trying to come to terms with it, has been difficult in part, but has allowed me to experience what it feels like to be myself without any fear or judgement. As I write these words, I am consciously noting how it feels in my body – that’s progress, thank you Sean!
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4 Week Journey
I contacted Sean after a difficult divorce and serious illness left me feeling disconnected from my body and sexuality. Sean worked with me over four weeks, covering areas such as the wheel of consent, tantric massage and intimacy coaching. He provided a safe space for me to explore my deep-rooted beliefs around sex and my body, and was supportive, encouraging, and gently challenging in a way that helped me reframe my beliefs in a more positive light. I found our work on wheel of consent particularly powerful, and the tantric massage broke through more barriers around my self-confidence than three months of therapy.
The work I did with Sean has led to a significant shift in how I feel about intimacy, sex and my body, and it’s impossible to overstate the benefits of going through this journey. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend this work as it can heal wounds, break negative patterns and provide you with valuable insight to help you enjoy intimacy and sex on a much deeper level.
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4 Week Journey
I chose to work with Sean as I have known him for a while, and I trusted him. I felt in my life I was making wrong choices when it came to men, and felt that seeing (Sean) an Intimacy Life Coach could help me.
During my time working with Sean he helped me overcome my issues I had with not being able to orgasm, and that I would fake it. It was a relief for myself and a partner I was with at the time because I had spoken to him about me faking orgasms and having sessions with Sean to help. I was relieved that I felt I could tell him (my partner) when I couldn’t orgasm which I have never done before seeing Sean.
I have also learnt to say what I want with someone instead of expecting them to know. The biggest achievement for me was when I said no to something I like, but at that moment didn’t want to go ahead as it felt like it was the wrong time.
I never thought I would feel this good about me, my body, and the positive decisions I can now make. Recommending Sean to other women, I wouldn’t hesitate as he knows what he is doing, makes you feel at ease, and has the time and patience to work with you at your pace.
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I had the pleasure of seeing Sean. He is a highly qualified practitioner and got a feel of my needs quickly. He made me feel comfortable and safe. My aim was to begin improving my body self worth after several major operations. Ater spending time with Sean I have been able to see glimmers of change in my self esteem and body Image. He also provided me with tools to use in my day to day living to build on my session with him.
The sensual massage was just an extension of the work we had already carried out and he brought me to a place of feeling comfortable to experience that with him.
I can highly recommend him. His ethos and high level of training are reflected in his work. He pushed me to explore myself in a much deeper way than I expected, opening me up to a whole new world of sensual sexuality but always maintaining strong boundaries in the process.
My intimate consent massage was sensational! I was initially seduced by a very inviting, warm and tranquil room.
Once laid on the table, I was drizzled with warm oil and Sean began. He was calming, engaging and attentive. His movements were firm, precise and symmetrical as they moved around my body with sensual rhythm.
It was an erotic, freeing and deeply pleasurable experience.
From booking the massage to the aftercare, Sean is professional. He communicates in a calm and informative way, allowing for questions and choices to be made in a safe and unhurried environment which feels warm and safe. His massage techniques are excellent and sublime and are tailored to individual needs. Consent and checking in are paramount and Sean ensures that clients are comfortable and okay the whole time. The space is warm and cosy with drinks available and a shower.
I’ve now had several massages and each has allowed me to be relaxed about my sexuality and learn from listening to my body.
Angela … Surrey
Every desire of your body is holy; Every desire of your body is Holy. I heard these words of Hafez a few years ago and they have been circulating in my brain ever since but never quite reached my heart until my session with S this weekend. He allowed me to utterly surrender to my inner desire, taught me to articulate what I want without shame, AND fixed some trauma that was stored in my arms with skilled bodywork AND truly relaxed my upset pelvic floor with a yoni massage. A very productive meeting, which I’m still processing as it was so transformative. Thank you xxxx
Becki … St Albans
I’ve experienced Tantra before but was curious to experience BDSM / Conscious Kink as I’ve always had a submissive sensual nature. Making the appointment was made easy. We had a chat beforehand and at the beginning of the appointment. I was made to feel safe and loved. Agreeing on the boundaries there followed a wonderful session of exploration through Tantra, mind, body and soul. My submissive side was totally satisfied in a loving warm and safe environment. The after care and chat was really helpful. I would highly recommend a visit. Thank you again.
The massage was absolutely paradise, try him for a bet. He’s one of the best in town. He is gifted for it, thanks for a good therapy. Every stress left my body and my mind was at peace thanks
Nikkie J, London
This was my first tantric massage . Although I was nervous Sean explained things beautifully and answered all my questions. My boundaries were discussed and respected fully. Sean was very welcoming into a warm safe environment. The massage was glorious and I will definitely be returning to explore more with this lovely man.
I immediately felt at ease with Sean. He gives off a calming energy which enabled me to sink into another place quite easily. He is professional but also very engaged and his touch is magnificent! I will certainly be back.