Intimate Services – Intimate Consent

Women

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‘‘It is possible to see what another person needs, and give it to them’’

Suzuki Roshi

Because society does not like to discuss or address sexual issues in depth they are nearly always left in the shadows, separate from our every day lives. We ignore the effects that intimacy issues have on all aspects of our lives; a poor intimate life, poor body image, guilt in receiving pleasure and inability to ask for what we want and to say no to what we don’t want causes ripples way outside of the bedroom. I would go as far to say that unless our intimate lives receive as much, or even more attention than the rest of our lives we are unable to truly be ourselves. Remember that intimacy as defined here is not just genital sex and the rush towards orgasm, there is so much more to pleasure. Holding hands, the stroking of hair, a kiss on your neck, warm hands and oil during a massage, masturbation.

You will be successful in lots of aspects of your life and some of you will be out of relationships and discovering new ways of connecting, some of you may be in relationships but need some support, or you may just be single and looking for guidance. This can be an exciting time exploring but it can also be fraught with pitfalls around boundaries and consent due to old patterns. Dating and sex positive apps are a minefield of well intentioned (I am being generous) people still pursuing old habits that are at best annoying, at worst dangerous and disingenuous. Break ups and divorce are stressful so we can support you with that and show you how to explore your new life in a conscious way, but no matter what your situation we can find the excitement of asking for what you really want from who you really want.

Sean specialises in helping women 40 and over. You are mature enough to have an idea about what you do and don’t want due to life experiences, yet you also want to find what will nourish and make you grow. Intimacy Life Coaching will guide you in your intimate life, delve into your ‘normal’ life as they are not separate, and help you make healthy bridges and connections between the two.

Your sexuality without any guilt or shame, your right to pleasure on your terms, the safety of knowing you have strong boundaries to express your yes and no are the grounding of your explorations and the minimum you require. Finding yourself and escaping the cultural and social conditioning that restricts our expression is what we help you do.

This is not a quick fix and it takes work and bravery to face yourself and find out who you are hidden underneath your conditioning, but it is well worth the time and effort.

If anything from the list below or something on the website strikes a chord, and there will most likely be more than one, contact Sean for a free 30 minute video consultation and find out what we can do for you.

Recently divorced/separated
Intimacy problems are ruining your relationship/s
Feel out of control of your own pleasure
Difficulty getting to orgasm/anorgasmia
Lost self confidence
Poor body image
Numbness, physically and emotionally
Want to learn to ask for what you want
Want to feel more embodied

Want to explore kink/BDSM but don’t know where to start
Would like to learn how to give and receive intimate touch
Want to transcend guilt/shame around sex and intimacy
You have vaginismus (pain on intercourse or physical contact of your vagina)
Sex related trauma is holding you back
You want to explore polyamory
You want to explore intimacy with women
Would like to squirt
Have issues around intimacy due to menopause
Difficulty navigating online dating/sex positive apps

This list is not exhaustive but will be helpful. Please contact Sean on 07830 509665 via WhatsApp or phone and he can arrange a video call, and send out a questionnaire via email to check the suitability of us working together. We want your experience with us to be a positive one of growth and discovery, that takes our expertise and the effort from us both to make it work.

Check the Intimacy Life coaching page for an outline of how we work, check the Tantric/Sensual/Yoni massage page for what we can offer there. The Journey page has more information on what is, and can be included in your personalised program.

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Intimacy Life Coaching

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‘‘Personal empowerment means reconditioning yourself from the values and the program of the society and putting your own values and programs in place’’

Terence Mckenna

Intimacy Life Coaching for 40 plus women. You can be single, married, in a relationship, polyamorous.

Intimacy Life Coaching is a concept where we are integrating your sexuality and intimate life in with your everyday life, whether that be work, parenthood, or whatever fills the rest of your day.

Life coaching sadly lacks any, or has very little, advice on our intimate lives which is much needed for many women. The extra ordinary promises from Life coaches that offer you all the money, happiness, life balance, drive and ambition needed for a wonderful life you won’t find here. You most likely have all the money that you will ever need but it still leaves you wanting. There is a very western, intellectual, head driven space that adheres to what society expects from you, not necessarily what is good for you. Sure you can have most of the material things you need and financial security, and that is not a bad thing, but have them without true intimacy and connection with others and particularly yourself and life is still going to feel that bit lacking.

Exploring intimacy and sexuality is more than your sex life, intimacy comes in many forms and our coaching will reveal that embracing your sexuality and sensuality can improve your self confidence in all other aspects of your life. We can address self-confidence, look into aspects such as health, nutrition, fitness and life balance. All advice and suggestions will be bullshit free. With more confidence in yourself you will be able to make clearer decisions in all aspects of your life.

Dropping the shame, guilt, pressure to be something you are not, and embracing the real you is the most powerful thing you can do. This work is not for the feint hearted though, it can uncover all sorts of painful personal truths but it is more than worth it. For on the other side of pain is pleasure, peace of mind and personal growth. So if you are looking for a few positive affirmations to make you feel better this is not for you. Instead there will be a lot of somatic work, where you listen to the innate wisdom of your body and retreat from the intellectual headspace that can keep leading us into the same dead ends over and over again.

Sensual massage and somatic bodywork are great tools which can be incorporated into our sessions and based around Betty martins Wheel of Consent. It is important to define strong boundaries and know how to express them when we work together. Boundaries help us establish our own personal space, protect our physical and emotional well-being and establish healthy relationships with others by setting expectations and communicating our needs clearly. Having strong boundaries leads to greater self-awareness, self-esteem, and healthier relationships.

Intimacy Life Coaching packages are all bespoke, there is a 1week intensive with follow ups then 4 weeks or longer as this work can take time to integrate and does evolve. There are no shortcuts and I don’t want either of us wasting our time to achieve little or no results if we cannot put the work in for whatever reason. Spaces are limited as this is personalised work for women so there maybe a waiting list.

There is more information about how Intimacy coaching can help on the Women’s page but it is by no means exhaustive so please get in contact with any questions. The Journey page has more information on what is, and can be included in your personalised program.

Contact Sean on 07830 509665 or email to book your free video call to see if we are a good fit to work together.

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The Journey

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The Journey

This is your personalised Journey as no two women are the same, an investment in yourself. We can address all the things on The Women’s and Intimacy Life Coaching pages and more, this is where you take the first practical step towards changing and improving your life in the way you want. Please email or WhatsApp for a New Client Form and ask about the free zoom call to discuss your needs and our compatibility of working together.

These are highly personalised programs, so I hesitate to put anything structured down as this needs to be organised between us. They can be a half or full day, or run with regular sessions and monitoring for a week, a month, 6 months or a year.

I work in a way that can incorporate your spirituality, and I can go as deep as you want and enjoy doing so, but if you are looking for flowery words and positive affirmations I am probably not for you. I like to dig around in ‘dark corners’ where all the best work takes place, but these places are usually painful to face. Think of it as you can ask for as much love and light as you want, but if you don’t look down and step out of the pile of shit you are standing in then long term results are never going to happen.

‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ C G Jung

‘The felt presence of immediate experience, this is all you know. Everything else comes as unconfirmed rumour.’ Terence McKenna

You can come to me, I have spaces we can work from. ..or I travel the country and abroad subject to reasonable expenses and am happy to come to yours, or find a space near you where we can work or/and I can stay, please email or WhatsApp for more details.

email: info@intimateconsent.co.uk

Mob; 07830 509665.

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Tantric / Sensual Massage / Yoni Massage

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Tantric

Tantra is a vast, ancient and mysterious subject that covers many topics and philosophies. Tantra is a Sanskrit word that has many different meanings; for us ‘a continuous process’ is most suitable, a personal practice of liberation. Tantric massage is a deep, spiritual, sensuous art that honours the feminine in all its power and beauty.

Sensual

Sensual massage is more of a touch exchange as opposed to Tantra which is more aligned with you learning to receive pleasure. With sensual massage you can in fact include most things that excite your senses, where you choose to find the sensuality and eroticism can be very personal and specific to you.

Yoni

Yoni massage is an honouring of your feminine and the power it possesses. Receive an exquisite, sensual, skilfully given massage that will set the standard for how you want to be touched in the future.

We can do Sensual and Tantric massage but our sessions are a mix of both and tailored to you. They are bespoke 3 hours of indulgence and self-exploration. We start by taking a history from you, find out what you are looking for and what might suit you. Boundaries are set from the start of the session and fixed, we can stop anything that we may have agreed too but nothing else will be added, you can always come back another time.

The 1st hour consists of fun and sensual exercises to help us be aware of our boundaries, we do some breathing and meditation then into the massage when we are comfortable with your boundary setting. The next 2 hours are completely for you and based around what we discussed in the history. You may want to just receive and enjoy touch in its purest form with a yoni massage included. You may want to touch back at points, want some conscious kink added, the list is as long as your imagination.

We finish with a drink, a chat or comfortable silence to absorb what has taken place. The only thing guaranteed is that this will be for you and like nothing you have received before.

This is the only session we offer for women who have not been before, you will need to set aside 4 hours to cover the starting history and time for some integration at the end.

When you have been once and want to come again we can skip the hour of boundary work or go through it again (recommended). There is much to be learned from repeating boundary work indefinitely, it is a gift that keeps on giving.

Please contact Sean for availability on 07830 509665 via WhatsApp or email info@intimateconsent.co.uk

These sessions are experiential, there is great value in the journey and discoveries of pleasure you will find out about yourself.

Cost is £150 per hour

4 handed massage can be arranged.

‘‘The subject tonight is love
and for tomorrow night as well.
As a matter of fact,
I know of no better topic
for us to discuss
until we die.’’
Hafiz

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Sexological Bodywork

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Sean is a qualified Sexological Bodyworker and a professional member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.

Sexological Bodyworkers are professionally qualified and work to a code of ethics, this link gives a description of what Sexological Bodywork is and covers https://sexologicalbodyworkers.org/whatis

Below is a list of some of the things covered, Sean also incorporates a lot of the modalities used into his other work, so whether you feel you would like a stand alone Sexological Bodywork session or not this work has influence on much of what he does.

– inability to orgasm

– recovering from sexual trauma

– consent and boundaries

– improving sexual confidence

– addressing shame around sexuality

– couples wanting to enhance

– learning to give and receive pleasure

– inability to orgasm

– premature ejaculation/erectile dysfunction

– re-discovering pleasure and sexual function after genital/breast/pellvic surgery and/or childbirth

– discovering and understanding Anal pleasure

– body confidence

– embodiment and expanding pleasure potential

– scar tissue remediation

– referred by doctor, social worker, therapist

This is somatic bodywork, it covers most of what is discussed on the women, couples and intimacy and sex coaching pages: a pure Sexological Bodywork session is one way touch from me to you so can differ from some of my other approaches, and is also governed by a code of ethics.

Sean prefers to meet in person, he can do this in South Woodford, Sidcup in Kent or come to you subject to reasonable travel costs.

He does also do zoom sessions

Cost in person: £150 per hour…90 to 240 mins

Online: £100 per hour…60 to 120mins max

Please contact Sean initially by phone/WhatsApp on 07830 509665, or via email at info@intimateconsent.co.uk to request a New Client Form to fill in.

This is followed by a free 20 minute zoom to see if we can work together.

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BDSM / Conscious Kink

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‘‘ There is a cost… for the society that insists on conformity to a particular range of sexual practices. We believe that cultures can be rationally designed. We teach, reward, and coerce. But we must consider the price, measured in the time and energy required for training and enforcement, and in the less tangible currency of human happiness spent to circumvent our innate predispositions. ’’

E. O. Wilson

BDSM is a rich and varied practice and one that requires deep trust and understanding between those participating. Learning your boundaries, practicing consent and being able to give a firm no all come into their own during BDSM/Conscious Kink sessions.

Maybe you would like this integrated into your sensual massage, or you would like a stand alone session created around you. Getting in touch with your darker side can be a very liberating, healing and powerful experience. Whether you have an idea of what you would like, or want to discuss what could possibly work for you feel free to contact me and discuss.

‘‘ One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. That which we do not bring to consciousness appears in our lives as fate. ’’

C.G.Jung

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